MY POV

Soul Contracts: Why Some People Become a Part of  Your Life Temporarily

I'd like to share something: I am a wanderer. I don't stay in one place for a very long time, and I always try my best to establish good connections anywhere I go. Sometimes, I fail. Sometimes, I find lifetime friends who always keep in touch even if I am miles away.

Is it a hard thing? Well, yes and no. I recently discovered that I am an ambivert. In a nutshell, it means that I love hanging out with people who are of the same wavelength as me, but my social battery is also quick to deplete, and my only way to recharge is to be alone and shut down.

I also enjoy my alone time, playing games, chatting on Discord or Facebook, or maybe watching a movie, or reading an article or a book.

Am I happy? Yes. It can get sad sometimes, but what can I do? I can only ponder, but the rest of the time, I am happy to have the social balance of physical encounters and then shifting to digital conversations.

But what does this have to do with soul contracts?

Let me ask you this: Have you ever met someone who felt meant to be in your life, only for them to leave suddenly? He or she could have been an acquaintance, a mentor, or even a romantic partner. The common denominator? Well, the connection was real, but it didn’t last.

I've read somewhere that some spiritual traditions explain this through the idea of soul contracts.

According to that material, a soul contract is a spiritual belief that before we are even born, our soul picks certain experiences and relationships to help us thrive. It's like an energetic agreement—not written in ink, but woven into one's fate.

According to my research, the idea has been discussed in modern spirituality by authors such as Caroline Myss (Sacred Contracts) and in many New Age teachings about reincarnation, karma, and life lessons.

So what does this mean to me?

Temporary Soul Contracts

However, not all soul contracts are meant to last forever. You will meet some people, but only for a season. Their purpose is specific, and once it’s fulfilled, they move on. Think of it as a small chapter in your life, and they will either leave a mark, teach you something important, change the course of your decisions, or maybe even affect you in a very life-changing way, sculpting your perspective into something that would impact your life.

A telltale sign that this person is someone who has a soul contract with you is that these “temporary contracts” often feel intense and meaningful, but at the same time, short-lived.

For example, a teacher or mentor who guides you and gives you impactful advice at the right time and then drifts away. Or maybe a brief friendship that changes the way you see yourself. In some cases, it's a relationship that ends painfully but forces you to heal and grow stronger.

Ok, so now you might be thinking, "So if these people are just temporary, why should they matter?"

Do they need to be in my life permanently?

Well, if you're asking me if you "need" them, it really depends on how you see it. Would you like them to be a part of your life on a long-term basis? Of course it will involve relationship building, bonding with them, learning their likes and dislikes, and determining if you and they have something in common, or even if you don't have anything in common, would you be able to jive with them?

In most cases, we really don't need them to be a part of our lives permanently. Their purpose is to just be there at the right place at the right time. A few things that they can do for you are:

• Awaken something in you. Like self-confidence, courage, creativity, or self-love. We already know what we need to do in many situations; we just need to hear it from other people sometimes.

• Holding up a mirror. They show you patterns or wounds you need to face. In reality, these people are strangers. They don't know anything about your past other than what you told them. But somehow, they'll be able to read past that and verbally slap you in the face with real talk.

• Acting as a bridge. They might have connections that will lead you to new opportunities or relationships. Oftentimes, they offer it to you. Sometimes you need to ask them for it.

• Delivering a message. Again, sometimes we need to be reminded of something we would have forgotten about ourselves. Taking in the perspective of a complete stranger is sometimes more meaningful and eye-opening because we won't be able to choose the words they will say, and we'll hear what we need to hear and not what we want to hear.

When we think of relationships this way, endings feel different. Instead of asking, “Why did they leave me? ,” we can ask, “What was their role in my journey? ” As I've said, some people are meant to walk with us a lifetime. Others only walk with us a mile or two, but that mile can change everything.

Ok, so what now?

To my belief, soul contracts are, of course, a spiritual belief and not a proven fact. But they offer a comforting perspective: every person who enters our life does so for a reason. Whether they stay for years or only for a short but life-changing moment, their presence has a purpose.

In conclusion, the next time someone touches your life and then drifts away, you might see it not as a loss, but as a completed agreement. A contract made long before you were physically born.

A course-changing chapter in the larger story (and journey) of your soul. -fin